10 Libido Types
Knowing what intrinsically drives us sexually is vital to achieving long-term satisfaction. Try to identify your own and your partner's and use is as a springboard to sorting out the kind of sex you both need to keep you interested long term.
1. Sensual: sex is an expression of love. Emotional intimacy is the most important thing.
2. Erotic: sex needs to be intense and lusty. Low-key "ordinary" sex is OK but it needs to be punctuated with some extraordinary sessions.
3. Dependent: sex is used as stress release and you become agitated if denied it.
4. Reactive: sex is about giving not receiving. It can be based around a low sex drive or you need to see your partner aroused to become aroused yourself.
5. Entitled: you have little understanding of your partner's sexual needs-just believe you're "owed" a certain amount and type of sex.
6. Addictive: sex is something you find so appealing, it's hard to manage. It controls you rather than the other way around and you're prone to cheat.
7. Disinterested: sex provides little pleasure and you rarely desire it. It can be the result of distressing sex that's quelled any natural desire.
8. Stressed: sex is worrying. You feel under pressure to perform and worry you're inadequate.
9. Detached: sex is good but competing distractions put you off and you emotionally withdraw from your partner and sex.
10. Compulsive: sex is only satisfying if you follow a specific ritual. Fetishists fall into this type of libido. It's selfish sex that involves little connection with your partner.
(Excerpt from: Secrets of a Supersexpert, Tracey Cox)
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